Life coaching and why some are more successful than others
Life coaching is about helping you achieve your goals. Life coaching is about helping you through that current stuck state you may be experiencing at the moment. Whether that is procrastination or a state where you feel you just can’t move forward.
There are many people offering life coaching. It seems life coaching has become big business in the world. So why are some life coaches better than others? What sets one life coach apart from another life coach? To answer that question, let’s first define what a life coach is.
Here is an extract from Wikipedia
“Life coaching is a practice that helps people identify and achieve personal goals. Life coaches assist clients by using a variety of tools and techniques. Life coaching draws inspiration from disciplines such as sociology, psychology, positive adult development and career counseling. Specialty life coaches may have degrees in psychological counseling, hypnosis, dream analysis, marketing and other areas relevant to providing guidance. However, they are not necessarily therapists or consultants; psychological intervention and business analysis may be outside the scope of some coaches’ work.
Contemporary life coaching can be traced to the teachings of Benjamin Karter, a college football coach turned motivational speaker of the late 1970s and early 1980s.
Many Life-Coach training schools and programs are available worldwide, providing options (classroom attendance or home study) for the individual who wants to gain a certificate or diploma and paid work in the field of life coaching. Many certificates and a few diploma credential designations are available within the profession.
Critics contend that life coaching is akin to psychotherapy without restrictions, oversight, or regulation. However, the Colorado General Assembly, after holding a hearing on such concerns, asserted that coaching is unlike therapy because it does not focus on examining nor diagnosing the past.
On August 14, 2012, the word Life Coach was listed for the first time in the mainstream Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary.”
Life coaching is about your success
Life coaching is still an unregulated market. There are many people calling themselves life coaches, business coaches with very little to back it up. There are of course life coaching courses that deliver great life coaches.
If you are an auto electrician, then you don’t just learn about fixing fuses. You learn about flicker units, wiring and everything else that you will need to be successful in your trade. Same would be true in life coaching. You don’t want to have a brain surgeon, who only managed to scrape through on his final exams, to work on your loved ones would you? You want somebody who knows what they are doing and is going to look after your best interests.
So what should you look out for if you are interested in life coaching? In life coaching the very best thing you can do is to find a life coach who is determined to help you succeed in your goal. Now I don’t mean they do everything for you. I mean to help you get to your agreed outcome. The goal that you both agreed on during your first consultation. If it was to help you to stop smoking, then helping you to lose weight may be a nice extra, but it was not the goal. Being a non smoker was. The role of a life coach is not to do everything for you. It is not the coaches responsibility for you to succeed. That is ultimately up to the person who wants the life coaching. In life coaching there are many techniques and the life coach will give you great support, but if you don’t do the things you are suppose to do, then nobody can make you. Nobody can make you stop smoking or lose weight as an example. Only you can do that. Who puts the cigarette in your mouth and lights it? Who takes that extra bite of the doughnut?
Clients are different and that means that a “one shoe fits all” approach simply will not work. So if the life coach you are seeing is working from a book on how to use a model like the GROW model, (or any number of different models) then that simply may not work. You see getting the client to say what their goal is, what their current reality is, what opportunities they have and what they will do is all well and good. It simply is not the way your mind works to get results for every situation. If it was the chances are you would have been a non smoker or dealt with your current problem all by yourself. A great life coach will have an armory of techniques to deal with different presenting problems. They will use a variety of techniques and approaches.
Life coaching success is about the right skills
So what life coaching training should your life coach have? Well that depends on the service they offer. If they are e.g. a retired psychiatrist, then their offering may be totally different to a school teacher looking for a change in career. One may want to work with people with anger management, whilst the other wants to work with kids with learning problems. Skill levels and experiences are different from life coach to life coach. As a client looking for life coaching, make sure you work with the best coach for you. Their success as a life coach also depends on their own beliefs. You see the client will actualize what the life believes to be true.
Depending on the life coaching course they did, they could have learnt various techniques. E.g. things like NLP, hypnosis,Time Line Therapy® and NLP coaching training. Some schools offer all these certificates, whilst others only offer coaching as a base training and possibly NLP practitioner training as an extra. Then of course you could then also do these training to simply practitioner or to Master practitioner level. Life coaches can have vastly different experience and skill levels so make sure you are working with the best life coach for your needs.
Let’s say you wanted to be a non smoker, then NLP may be the right solution to help you. What about the next person who wants to lose weight. They may be overweight because of something that happened to them in the past. A limiting decision they made about them self. So in this case Time Line Therapy® may be the first step to success. For somebody else, hypnosis may be the right solution. Or a combination of all three.
As clients we are all different and so life coaching needs to draw on an arsenal of experience and techniques to help you get the results you want. If the life coach is out of their depth or not equipped to deal with a certain problem, they should pass the referral to somebody who is. It is in your best interest to be working with the person who can help you.
So to summarize life coaching is about having the right skills necessary to deal with you as a client. Life coaching is not a “do everything for you” or “do it to me” process. You as the client are ultimately responsible for the success you achieve and the life coach is an instrument to helping you achieve your goals.
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